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Posted in Self-Worth

Where Is Your Self-Worth?

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Where is your self-worth?

Excessive apologizing may indicate a lack of self-worth and low self-esteem.

In social interactions, apologizing is a common courtesy that maintains politeness. While it’s beneficial, excessive apologizing for everything warrants introspection. It’s crucial to understand the underlying reasons behind the constant urge to utter “I’m sorry” to gain clarity and make necessary adjustments.

When confronted with a situation that has gone awry, expressing regret through the words “I’m sorry” implies accountability for one’s actions. Whether it’s negotiating parking spots, navigating crowded supermarket aisles, or reaching for desired items, there are instances where an apology is appropriate. However, there are also times when a simple “excuse me” better reflects the nature of the encounter.

“Saying ‘sorry’ can sometimes feel like you’re giving the other person more importance than yourself. Of course, sometimes it’s just a harmless way to chill things down. But if you find yourself apologizing all the time, it might be worth digging deeper and figuring out why that is. If it’s a habit, breaking it might just take a little mindfulness and practice.”

To begin the process of reducing your apologies, start by observing yourself throughout your day. Pay attention to each instance when you apologize, without judging yourself. Initially, you may be surprised to notice how frequently you apologize, perhaps more than you realize. After a day or two of observation, focus on understanding the feelings you experience immediately before apologizing.

During confrontations, you may experience a range of emotions like feeling threatened, embarrassed, or overwhelmed by intense anxiety. Instead of immediately reacting with words, take a moment to pause and simply acknowledge the feeling that arises. It might be a familiar emotion from your childhood that has persisted over time. The more you recognize and accept these feelings, the less likely you will be to carry the burden of regret.

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

Posted in Grace

Count Your Blessings

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Count Your Blessings

When we start appreciating the gift of life and the experiences we have, our thankfulness grows stronger.

When we practice being thankful, we often take time to recognize the good things, like people, things, and places that make up our lives. It’s awesome to appreciate our good fortune, but real thankfulness comes from understanding that just being alive is a gift, no matter what’s going on. When we’re truly grateful, we realize that being alive is a special experience, and we feel connected to the mysterious beauty of life itself.

You know, it’s tough for most of us to tap into that deep level of awareness, right? We’re all caught up in the rollercoaster of our own lives, with all its ups and downs. But here’s the thing: the world is like a tide, it goes in and out, gets bigger and smaller, and gives and takes. It’s not always reliable. So, if we only say “thank you” when things go our way, that’s not real gratitude.

Life is full of surprises, and it can take away our belongings, relationships, and even the people we cherish at any moment. But ironically, it’s often this kind of loss that makes us appreciate life more, beyond just being happy when things go our way. Even getting sick or having a close call with an accident, or a hurricane and flooding can be a wake-up call, reminding us how lucky we are to be alive.

You don’t have to wait for a big shake-up in your life to appreciate it. Just taking a few moments each day to focus on your breath and be present in the moment can do wonders for making you feel grateful. And remember, the life force that flows through you is generous and unconditional, no matter what’s going on around you. So, let’s wake up and be more aware of that!

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

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It’s Gets One-Sided At Times

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Sometimes it gets One-Sided

It happens, relationships get all out of whack when we don’t make time to catch up with each other.

In a close relationship, the way energy flows between two people is pretty amazing. Ideally, both people should be talking and listening equally, and they should be giving and getting support in equal measure.

In any relationship, things change, and sometimes one person ends up doing more listening or giving. But don’t worry, it won’t always be like that. Like a seesaw, things tend to balance out over time. We all have phases when we take more and times when we give more. It’s just a natural part of being in a relationship.

But, let’s be real, there are also those friendships where things just feel tilted. You know, like you have this friend you dig, but you’ve started to notice that the chats are always about their stuff, never yours. Or maybe you have a buddy who constantly needs your shoulder to cry on, but they don’t seem to be there for you when you need ’em. Over time, these friendships can make you feel like a thirsty plant that’s never getting any water.

You’ve got a friend who’s been all taking and no give for a while, you’re not feeling it anymore, and you’re wondering what to do. Well, there are a couple of options. You could end the friendship, or you could try to talk to them about it. If you go the talking route, be prepared for them to be surprised. But your friendship could be much better if they’re okay with talking it out. They might even thank you for helping them see a pattern in their life that’s been messing up more than just your friendship!

One more thing you can do is just be okay with the relationship as it is. A lot of one-sided relationships work. Like, a mentor relationship where you’re learning from someone, or when you’re helping someone who’s sick, disabled, or needs something. In these cases, just be happy that you can help and be helped, and trust that in the long run, things will balance out.

Peace ♥ Harmony, Cheryl