Tag: habits

Where is your self-worth?

Excessive apologizing may indicate a lack of self-worth and low self-esteem.

In social interactions, apologizing is a common courtesy that maintains politeness. While it’s beneficial, excessive apologizing for everything warrants introspection. It’s crucial to understand the underlying reasons behind the constant urge to utter “I’m sorry” to gain clarity and make necessary adjustments.

When confronted with a situation that has gone awry, expressing regret through the words “I’m sorry” implies accountability for one’s actions. Whether it’s negotiating parking spots, navigating crowded supermarket aisles, or reaching for desired items, there are instances where an apology is appropriate. However, there are also times when a simple “excuse me” better reflects the nature of the encounter.

“Saying ‘sorry’ can sometimes feel like you’re giving the other person more importance than yourself. Of course, sometimes it’s just a harmless way to chill things down. But if you find yourself apologizing all the time, it might be worth digging deeper and figuring out why that is. If it’s a habit, breaking it might just take a little mindfulness and practice.”

To begin the process of reducing your apologies, start by observing yourself throughout your day. Pay attention to each instance when you apologize, without judging yourself. Initially, you may be surprised to notice how frequently you apologize, perhaps more than you realize. After a day or two of observation, focus on understanding the feelings you experience immediately before apologizing.

During confrontations, you may experience a range of emotions like feeling threatened, embarrassed, or overwhelmed by intense anxiety. Instead of immediately reacting with words, take a moment to pause and simply acknowledge the feeling that arises. It might be a familiar emotion from your childhood that has persisted over time. The more you recognize and accept these feelings, the less likely you will be to carry the burden of regret.

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl