Sometimes it gets One-Sided
It happens, relationships get all out of whack when we don’t make time to catch up with each other.
In a close relationship, the way energy flows between two people is pretty amazing. Ideally, both people should be talking and listening equally, and they should be giving and getting support in equal measure.
In any relationship, things change, and sometimes one person ends up doing more listening or giving. But don’t worry, it won’t always be like that. Like a seesaw, things tend to balance out over time. We all have phases when we take more and times when we give more. It’s just a natural part of being in a relationship.
But, let’s be real, there are also those friendships where things just feel tilted. You know, like you have this friend you dig, but you’ve started to notice that the chats are always about their stuff, never yours. Or maybe you have a buddy who constantly needs your shoulder to cry on, but they don’t seem to be there for you when you need ’em. Over time, these friendships can make you feel like a thirsty plant that’s never getting any water.
You’ve got a friend who’s been all taking and no give for a while, you’re not feeling it anymore, and you’re wondering what to do. Well, there are a couple of options. You could end the friendship, or you could try to talk to them about it. If you go the talking route, be prepared for them to be surprised. But your friendship could be much better if they’re okay with talking it out. They might even thank you for helping them see a pattern in their life that’s been messing up more than just your friendship!
One more thing you can do is just be okay with the relationship as it is. A lot of one-sided relationships work. Like, a mentor relationship where you’re learning from someone, or when you’re helping someone who’s sick, disabled, or needs something. In these cases, just be happy that you can help and be helped, and trust that in the long run, things will balance out.
Peace ♥ Harmony, Cheryl
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