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Hello, I'm Cheryl, your professional cleaner and organizer. Are you frustrated with your cluttered and messy home or office? I'm here to help you declutter and organize your space so you can finally relax and enjoy life. With my keen eye for spatial awareness and unwavering commitment to order, I can transform your space into a functional and stylish haven. Are you eager to simplify your life and create a space you love? Let's collaborate and bring your vision of an organized and efficient environment to life. I'm ready to assist you in turning your dream space into a reality.
Posted in Deep-Cleaning

The Art of Detail-Cleaning

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In the quiet corners of our homes, hidden beneath the daily bustle, lie forgotten nooks and crannies. These are the places where memories gather dust and where the essence of our lives subtly accumulates. Detail-cleaning your home is not just about tidying up—it’s about rekindling a relationship with your space, breathing life back into every room, and finding joy in the smallest of details.

Imagine the serenity that washes over you as you lift a neglected picture frame, wiping away months of dust to reveal a cherished photograph. Each swipe of the cloth becomes a stroke of nostalgia, a gentle reminder of moments past. The smell of fresh cleaning products mingles with the familiar scent of home, creating an atmosphere that is both comforting and invigorating.

As you meticulously clean the baseboards and scrub the grout, you are not just removing dirt—you are rediscovering the beauty that lies beneath. Each corner you uncover, each surface you polish, reflects a renewed commitment to your environment. It’s a process that grounds you, connecting you to the physical space that holds your life’s stories.

Detail-cleaning your home is an act of love. It’s in the careful reorganization of a cluttered drawer, where you find that long-lost trinket that brings a smile to your face. It’s in the satisfaction of seeing your reflection in a spotless mirror, a metaphor for the clarity and peace you seek in life.

The act of deep cleaning goes beyond the physical; it’s a meditative journey. As you clean, you let go of what no longer serves you, making room for new memories and experiences. It’s a practice that teaches patience, attention to detail, and mindfulness. You become present in the moment, fully engaged with your surroundings.

In this process, your home transforms from a mere shelter into a sanctuary. The energy shifts and the air feels lighter. You walk through each room with a sense of pride and accomplishment, knowing that every surface gleams with your care. It’s a gift to yourself and to those you share your home with—a testament to the love and respect you have for your living space.

So, embrace the art of detail-cleaning. Let it be a celebration of your home, a ritual that honors the past and prepares for the future. As you clean, remember that you are not just tidying up; you are creating a space filled with warmth, clarity, and peace. In every corner, let the love you pour into your home reflect into your heart, reminding you of the beauty in the details.

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

Posted in Reflections

The Power of Disconnect

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The Power of Disconnect

Rather than engaging in mind games, pursue a life rooted in authenticity and introspection.

Individuals are often conditioned from a young age to believe that open and honest communication is ineffective in achieving their goals. Rather than fostering genuine connections, they resort to manipulative strategies like mind games and exercises of authority to align with their ego’s desires.

Individuals trapped in an outdated and ineffective communication style can range from frustrating to outright destructive. It’s tempting to engage in the same tactics to defend ourselves, but this only perpetuates confusion and conflict. The optimal approach is to be transparent and genuine in our interactions with such individuals.

In any relationship or situation, introspection is crucial in identifying the root of our problems and finding solutions. Reacting emotionally will only further entangle us. To gain clarity, we must detach from the situation, find stillness, and delve within ourselves. This introspection will help us understand the factors that have contributed to our current predicament.

Through introspection, we’ll likely uncover raw emotions that we can finally embrace wholeheartedly. As we do this more, the other person’s emotional turmoil will bother us less, allowing us the freedom to respond in a novel manner. This newfound awareness will unravel the situation, gradually leading to our liberation.

In the tapestry of our lives, each person who enters our orbit brings a unique purpose. They serve as mirrors, reflecting aspects of ourselves that we may have overlooked. When unhealthy individuals attempt to draw us into their manipulative games and power struggles, we have an opportunity for profound growth. By recognizing that we have lessons to learn, we tap into a deeper part of ourselves that yearns for healing. This perspective shift allows us to redirect our attention inward, empowering us to transform challenging situations from within.

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

Posted in Declutter

Mini-Clutter Clinic

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Mini Clinic: Organizing the Family Bathroom

Objective:
To transform a cluttered family bathroom into a functional, clean, and efficient space for all members of the family to use comfortably.

Step 1: Declutter

  • Remove everything: Clear off countertops, shelves, and cabinets. Lay everything out on a surface.
  • Sort into categories: Group items by type—towels, toiletries, cleaning supplies, first aid, etc.
  • Toss expired or unused items: Discard expired products, empty bottles, and anything no longer in use.

Step 2: Establish Zones

Create dedicated zones for:

  • Daily use items: Keep frequently used products (toothbrushes, soap, hand towels) within easy reach.
  • Hair and skincare products: Use a drawer or container for makeup, skincare, and hair tools.
  • Bathing essentials: Organize shampoos, conditioners, and body washes near the shower or bath.
  • Cleaning supplies: Store under the sink or in a closet, but keep them out of reach of children.
  • Family members’ items: If several family members use the bathroom, create personal bins or shelves for each person.

Step 3: Maximize Storage

  • Use drawer organizers: Keep small items like cotton swabs, toothpaste, and razors tidy.
  • Install shelves or baskets: Make use of vertical space with wall-mounted shelves or hanging baskets for extra storage.
  • Use clear containers: For deep cabinets or under-the-sink areas, use clear bins or baskets for easier access to items.
  • Towel hooks or racks: Mount hooks for each family member’s towel, or add a towel bar to keep them off the floor.

Step 4: Label & Maintain

  • Label containers and bins: Labeling helps everyone know where things belong and keeps the system working.
  • Implement a routine check: Once a month, check for items that need replenishing or discarding, ensuring the space stays clutter-free.

Additional Tips:

  • Add a laundry hamper: Make it easy for everyone to toss dirty towels and clothes directly into the hamper.
  • Childproofing: If you have young children, ensure that any sharp or hazardous items are stored securely and out of reach.

Products to Consider:

  • Stackable bins for under-sink storage
  • Over-the-door hooks for towels
  • Clear plastic containers for small items
  • Drawer dividers for toiletries
  • A lazy Susan for easy access to products in deep cabinets

Final Thoughts:

A well-organized family bathroom can streamline the morning and evening routines, helping every family member start their day more efficiently. Plus, an organized bathroom is easier to clean and maintain!

Happy Organizing! Cheryl

Posted in Healthy Mind

A Lonely Brain

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My lonely brain and how it worked to isolate me

Comprehending the neurological impact of loneliness is essential for effectively addressing it. The lonely mind often enters a self-reinforcing cycle, making it increasingly challenging to re-establish healthy social connections. One manifestation of this cycle is holding friends and acquaintances to unobtainable high standards. This behavior leads to frequent disappointments, reinforcing the belief that others will inevitably let you down. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, further justifying the choice to withdraw from social interactions.

In times of isolation, the secluded mind frequently seeks justifications for its solitary existence. This behavior mirrors the psychological patterns observed in individuals suffering from depression, characterized by a distorted perspective that portrays their suffering as unique and incomprehensible to others. This limited viewpoint can further fuel feelings of isolation. 

For instance, during my journey of extreme loneliness following my mother’s death, while in my forties, I clung to the irrational belief that no one else my age could fathom having a father restricted to a wheelchair and wanting to be closer to my mother dying of cancer. Back then, this conviction seemed unshakeable, but in the wake of my healing journey, it appears woefully narrow-minded. These beliefs, while illogical, served as an excuse for withdrawing from social interactions, propelling me further into the isolation of my career.

In my quest to break the cycle of loneliness, I journaled every day by identifying recurring patterns that were pivotal. Observing and writing about my lonely brain and comprehending its process led to a notable decrease in my self-loathing behavior. Recognizing that my experiences were not as unique as I had perceived was a crucial step. Gaining the perspective that others worldwide were enduring profound suffering empowered me to transcend isolation. I realized I could make a difference by serving both myself and others.

Healing a lonely brain from depression requires a multi-faceted approach that addresses the emotional, physical, and social aspects of well-being. 

Here’s a step-by-step process that served as a roadmap during my healing journey:

1. Acknowledge the Pain

  • Self-awareness: Accept that you’re feeling lonely and depressed. Denying it can create more stress and block the healing process.
  • Journaling: Write down your feelings daily to understand the triggers and patterns of loneliness.
  • Self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness, recognizing that healing is a process, and that feeling this way is valid.

2. Create a Supportive Environment

  • Declutter your space: A clean, organized living space can significantly improve your mental clarity and reduce feelings of overwhelm.
  • Comfort zones: Create a dedicated cozy corner with comforting objects like books, candles, plants, and soft lighting where you feel safe and relaxed.
  • Reduce digital noise: Limit social media, which can sometimes amplify feelings of isolation.

3. Nurture the Brain with Physical Care

  • Physical activity: Engage in light physical activities like walking, stretching, or yoga. Exercise releases endorphins, which naturally improve mood.
  • Sleep hygiene: Develop a consistent sleep schedule, creating a nighttime routine that includes calming activities like reading or meditation.
  • Nutrition: Eat brain-healthy foods rich in omega-3, antioxidants, and fiber (salmon, berries, leafy greens, whole grains) to support mental clarity and energy levels.

4. Gradually Rebuild Connections

  • Start small: Engage in low-pressure social activities, like a phone call with a friend or attending a small, casual event.
  • Volunteering: Helping others can provide a sense of purpose and belonging. Look for local opportunities that align with your values or interests.
  • Community involvement: Consider joining a club, or support group, or attending events (like art or reading meetups) to meet like-minded individuals.

5. Cultivate Meaningful Habits

  • Practice mindfulness: Daily meditation, even for just 5–10 minutes, helps quiet the mind and fosters self-awareness.
  • Creative expression: Engage in activities like painting, writing, or playing music to channel emotions into a constructive outlet.
  • Positive routines: Build a daily routine that includes moments of joy, like a favorite hobby, spending time in nature, or listening to music.

6. Challenge Negative Thoughts

  • Cognitive Behavioral Techniques (CBT): Identify negative thought patterns and actively replace them with more balanced, positive thoughts.
  • Daily affirmations: Start the day with positive statements like, “I am worthy of love and connection” or “I am stronger than my feelings of loneliness.”

7. Professional Support

  • Therapy: Seek out a therapist, counselor, or support group specialized in depression or loneliness. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or other talk therapies can be especially helpful.
  • Medication: If necessary, consult a healthcare professional about medication that can support your healing, especially if depression is persistent or severe.
  • Support networks: Surround yourself with a support team of friends, family, or mentors who can offer encouragement and a listening ear.

8. Find Purpose and Meaning

  • Goal-setting: Set small, achievable goals that give your days structure and purpose, whether it’s learning something new, starting a project, or making a personal breakthrough.
  • Spiritual practices: Engage in spiritual or philosophical exploration if it resonates with you, as this can help provide meaning beyond day-to-day struggles.

9. Create Time for Joy

  • Laughter therapy: Engage in activities or watch content that makes you laugh; laughter releases chemicals in the brain that help reduce depression symptoms.
  • Gratitude practice: Every day, write down 3 to 5 things you’re grateful for. This shifts focus away from negativity and train the brain to notice positive moments.

10. Be Patient with Yourself

  • Celebrate small victories: Acknowledge every step forward, no matter how small, and avoid self-criticism for setbacks.
  • Progress over perfection: Healing isn’t linear, and it’s okay to experience difficult days. Keep moving forward with kindness and persistence.

I hope this blog post helps you find a way out of your loneliness to joy.

“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.” 

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

Posted in Clutter Coach

Essential Space Organization

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Essential Space Organization

Organizing your spaces is not just a luxury; it’s essential to creating a balanced and productive lifestyle. Clutter and disorganization can have a profound impact on your mental and emotional well-being. When your living or working environment is chaotic, it can lead to feelings of stress, overwhelm, and even a sense of being stuck. Conversely, an organized space promotes clarity, focus, and peace of mind, allowing you to operate more efficiently and feel more in control.

A well-organized space saves time and energy. When you know where things are, you don’t waste precious moments searching for misplaced items, which reduces frustration and increases productivity. It helps you maintain a sense of calm, especially in stressful situations, because your environment is set up to support your daily routines, not hinder them. This is particularly important for people juggling multiple responsibilities like work, family, and personal care.

Additionally, organizing isn’t about making everything perfect; it’s about creating systems that work for you and your unique lifestyle. Whether it’s a kitchen where meal prep becomes effortless, a workspace that boosts creativity and concentration, or a living room that invites relaxation and connection, organizing is about making life flow better. It’s a form of self-care that enhances the quality of your life by creating physical and mental space for the things that matter most.

Far from being a luxury, organization is a necessity. It empowers you to live more intentionally, reduces anxiety, and fosters a healthier, more functional lifestyle. When your space is in order, your mind can follow suit.

Change Chaos to Calm, Cheryl

If you require more comprehensive guidance than the information provided in my article, consider my personalized coaching programs. Book a complimentary consultation to explore the factors hindering your journey toward organized living spaces. Together, we will identify your challenges and develop a tailored strategy to help you achieve your goals. I anticipate the opportunity to collaborate with you in transforming your lifestyle.

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“Clutter is postponed decisions”

Posted in Closet Organization

Mini-Clutter Clinic . . . Closets

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Mini Clinic: Organizing an Entry Hall Closet

Duration: 30-45 minutes

USE A TIMER TO AVOID DISTRACTIONS – NOT THE ONE ON YOUR PHONE (optional)

1. Set a Goal for Your Closet (5 minutes)

Purpose: Determine how you want your closet to function as a place for coats, shoes, bags, or cleaning supplies.

Activity: Write down your main goal for the space and the key items that belong there.

2. Clear Out the Closet (10 minutes)

Purpose: Create a clean slate by emptying everything from the closet.

Activity: Remove all items, then clean the space. Dust, sweep, and wipe down the shelves and floor.

3. Sort and Categorize (10-15 minutes)

Purpose: Group similar items together to understand what you have and what’s worth keeping.

Activity: Use categories like Coats/Jackets, Shoes/Boots, Bags, Cleaning Supplies, etc.

Tip: Immediately create piles for Keep, Donate, and Trash to declutter.

4. Choose Organizational Tools (5-10 minutes)

Purpose: Maximize the closet’s functionality using storage solutions.

Suggested Tools:

Hooks or wall-mounted racks for bags, hats, or scarves.

Shoe racks or bins for footwear.

Shelving or baskets for seasonal items like gloves and umbrellas.

Over-the-door organizers for smaller accessories.

5. Return Items to the Closet (5-10 minutes)

Purpose: Arrange everything back into the closet in an organized way. EVERYTHING NEEDS A HOME!

Tip: Place most-used items at eye level and seasonal or rarely used items higher up.

Activity: Strategically put each item back, ensuring that the closet serves its purpose effectively.

6. Final Touches and Maintenance Plan (5 minutes)

Purpose: Make sure the space is easy to maintain in the long term.

>>POST A LIST ON THE INSIDE DOOR OF WHAT BELONGS IN THE SPACE- For younger kids, use pictures<<

Tip: Create a simple maintenance plan, like a quick 5-minute monthly declutter.

Activity: Label shelves or bins if necessary to keep the system intact.

Key Takeaway:

The entry hall closet is often a catch-all space, but it can transform into a functional, stress-free area with proper organization. Consistent decluttering and intentional storage will keep it organized.

Happy Organizing! 

Cheryl 

Posted in Journal Writing

Keep a Sad or Worry Journal

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Creatively express your feelings (or lack thereof)

Create a unique artistic expression that reflects your most recent emotion. Engage in activities such as writing a song, doodling in a journal, painting a picture, or crafting a collage or Vision Board/Box. Explore different mediums to convey your feelings, even if you struggle to identify them. Embrace the use of dark colors like greys and blacks to add depth to your work of art. Afterward, reflect on your emotional state. Examine whether a sense of satisfaction or any other emotion arises within you. Document these experiences in a journal, exploring the nuances of your feelings and the impact of your artistic expression.

Take care of your inner child

To heal the emotional numbing that stems from childhood trauma, it’s crucial to care for your inner child. Engage in inner child work to find ways to comfort and nurture this vulnerable part of yourself. Consider creating empowering affirmations tailored to your inner child’s needs. For instance, when faced with challenging circumstances, repeat phrases like “It’s okay for me to feel,” “It’s safe for me to feel sad,” “My anger is valid,” and “Being vulnerable is being strong.” These affirmations can help your inner child access emotions and promote emotional growth.

Dedicate space and time to feeling

In our fast-paced lives, we often seek distractions from social media, television, shopping, food, social obligations, and other external sources. While these distractions can provide temporary relief, they can also hinder our ability to look inward. Unlike external distractions, introspection requires self-discipline, which is why many people avoid it. 

To conquer emotional numbness, dedicating time and space for self-reflection is crucial. Journaling has been an effective method for me, sometimes leading to creative outlets such as drawing, poetry, or songwriting. Revisiting my journal, I consistently observe progress, even if it’s gradual. The key is to maintain forward momentum in my emotional journey.

To strengthen self-discipline, dedicate time to exploring your inner self, especially identifying and understanding repressed emotions and their underlying causes. This step is crucial for personal growth and self-awareness.

To conclude your journaling session, consider incorporating uplifting elements to counteract negative emotions. This could involve reading positive news from sources such as the uplifting news subreddit, spending quality time with a loved one, engaging in playful activities with a pet, or selecting entertaining content from platforms like YouTube or Netflix. This practice will help balance your emotional state and promote a sense of well-being.

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

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Motivational Monday

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Don’t Compare Yourself Celebrate Yourself~

Motivating yourself through depression can feel like an uphill battle . . . I know, but small steps forward make a big difference. It’s about recognizing that even the smallest accomplishments, like getting out of bed or taking a shower, are victories. Setting gentle, realistic goals and allowing yourself grace when you need rest is key. Surround yourself with support, whether it’s from friends, family, or a community, and remember that healing takes time. Progress may be slow, but each day brings a new opportunity to try again. Celebrate the small wins, and trust that brighter days will come. #CELEBRATEYOURSELF

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

Posted in New Beginnings

Sharing Our Spaces

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By opening our homes and sharing their warmth, we spread radiance instead of confining it within closed doors.

Within the sanctuary of our homes, sharing our space with familiar faces brings comfort. However, the intrusion of outsiders, such as unfamiliar cleaners, contractors, or technicians, can disrupt the serenity. Additionally, acquaintances of our partners and friends of our children introduce unforeseen elements that may challenge the established dynamics of our domestic environment.

To fully embrace the presence of spirits, we must refrain from treating them as unwelcome intrusions. By resisting their presence, we impede the natural flow of energy and potentially miss out on the gifts they offer. Alternatively, we can choose to perceive their energy as a valuable exchange and an opportunity for acceptance.

In preparation for their arrival, we can engage in visualization practices. Envisioning a radiant light surrounding our bodies and extending outward from the heart of our homes can help create a welcoming and serene environment. Additionally, we may choose to enhance the atmosphere by playing meditative music or lighting incense, fostering a sense of peace and receptivity.

To alleviate tension for everyone involved, it’s beneficial to securely store our valuables beforehand. Upon their arrival, we can establish and maintain our boundaries by gently guiding them through their visit. This may involve requesting that they remove their shoes, providing a designated area for their tools, and setting an example by speaking softly and avoiding harsh language.

In summary, keep in mind that we gain life lessons through meaningful connections with others. Our homes shouldn’t serve as barriers isolating us from the outside world. Instead, they can transform into welcoming sanctuaries where we embrace and appreciate the presence and gifts of others. By sharing the joy and warmth of our homes, we radiate our inner light rather than concealing it behind closed doors. The more we engage in this practice, the greater the potential for the external world to mirror the peaceful and harmonious environment we have cultivated within our homes.

‘Hospitality is opening your home the same way you open your heart”

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl

Posted in Clean and Organize

The Healing Power of Decluttering

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The Healing Power of Decluttering: How a Professional Organizer Can Transform Your Space and Mind

Life has a way of piling up, and not just on our to-do lists. Slowly, without even noticing, our homes and offices start to fill with things—possessions, papers, even well-meaning gifts—that eventually become clutter. But this clutter isn’t just physical; it seeps into our minds, creating a kind of noise that disrupts our peace, our productivity, and even our health.

For many, a cluttered space is a reflection of a cluttered mind. It’s hard to concentrate, to relax, or even to feel truly at home when surrounded by chaos. You may find yourself overwhelmed, anxious, or even depressed as your space spirals out of control. This is where the magic of a professional organizer comes in—not just as someone who tidies up, but as a partner in reclaiming your life.

Clutter and Mental Health: The Hidden Connection

Imagine walking into a room that feels light, open, and calm—a place where everything has a home and nothing is out of place. Now, imagine the opposite: a space where every surface is covered, every drawer is crammed, and every corner holds a reminder of something you haven’t gotten to yet. That second scenario can weigh on you, both mentally and physically. Studies show that clutter can increase levels of the stress hormone cortisol, leading to feelings of overwhelm and helplessness. It can rob you of your focus, steal your energy, and even disrupt your sleep.

But it’s not just about the physical mess. Each piece of clutter often carries its own emotional baggage—unmade decisions, unfulfilled promises, and unresolved issues. And that emotional weight can be heavy.

How a Professional Organizer Can Help

When you invite a professional organizer into your space, you’re not just asking for help with cleaning up—you’re inviting transformation. A good organizer understands that decluttering is deeply personal. They approach each space with empathy, knowing that every item has a story, every decision a ripple effect.

Here’s how the process can impact your mental and physical health:

  1. Restoring Order, Reducing Stress: By systematically decluttering and organizing, a professional helps you reclaim your space and, with it, your peace of mind. As your environment becomes more orderly, your mind can follow suit. The weight on your shoulders lightens as your stress levels decrease.
  2. Empowering Decisions: Every item you decide to keep, donate, or discard is a step toward empowerment. You’re taking control, making decisions that reflect your current self and your goals. This act of choosing can be incredibly freeing, reducing anxiety and boosting your self-esteem.
  3. Creating Calm: A decluttered space creates an environment where you can relax and recharge. It becomes a sanctuary, a place where you can breathe deeply, think clearly, and rest completely. Imagine the physical relief of walking into a room that feels calm and welcoming—your body responds to that in powerful ways.
  4. Boosting Productivity: In your office, a clear space leads to a clear mind. You’re able to focus better, work more efficiently, and make decisions more effectively. This boost in productivity isn’t just good for your career—it’s great for your mental health, too.
  5. Supporting Well-being: Beyond the immediate impact, the benefits of a decluttered space extend to your overall well-being. Better sleep, improved relationships, more time for self-care—these are just a few of the long-term rewards you might experience.

Your Journey to a Lighter, Healthier Life

Decluttering isn’t just about getting rid of things; it’s about making space for what truly matters. It’s about creating an environment that nurtures you and supports your mental and physical health.

As a professional organizer, I’m here to guide you on that journey. Together, we can transform your cluttered space into a place of peace, productivity, and well-being. Because when you declutter your space, you declutter your life—and that’s where true healing begins.

Happy Decluttering!

Peace & Harmony, Cheryl